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The date consisted of pizza, ice cream, and a very polite fellow!
During the date, I was freely talking to him, but not about my asexuality. Other conversations between us just easily came as I talked with him.
After dinner, we grabbed ice cream close by to keep talking, and it was a good time!
But there were no sparks, no butterflies… But there also wasn’t an instinctual “nope!” like I’ve strongly felt being on other dates.
I just felt… neutral. And I was okay about that. Later on, I wondered if I was still feeling the aftermath of the other date going wrong since it just happened the day before. Whatever the case, I was curious about my neutral feelings about this date.
By the time we decided to call it a night and he began walking me to my car, I remembered to bring up my asexuality.
“So on my profile, I mentioned being asexual…”
He nodded. “Ah, yeah.”
I told him how in a perfect world, I wouldn’t wanna have sex or deal with it. How I still wanted and was romantically attracted to men and loved affection in other ways.
“I’m the same way,” He replied.
That broke my brain a little; this wasn’t the pattern I was used to when I’d talk to guys about this.
I reiterated what I said, and he just agreed again, telling me about his past relationships and what he’s done and preferred.
I was in a daze as he continued the conversation, asking if I’d like to go on another date (yeah). And me, telling him I’d give him my Google number so we could talk off the app.
And he said he was perfectly fine with it.
I got into my car and we waved bye to one another, and I got ready to go home.
Later that night, I gave him my Google number and he began planning our second date: lunch and the zoo!
But since the zoo closed earlier in the day, he wouldn’t be able to see me for a whole week due to his busy schedule.
I was a bit bummed about the wait, but understanding.
And in the meantime, guess who returned in my private messages on Hinge?
The guy who canceled our date the day before said, “Totally random but I was in a Facebook group (redacted) and saw a photo of someone and thought they looked familiar. Turns out it’s you. You’ve been a favorite poster of mine in that group for a while now.”
The ball was in my court now, but did I even want it anymore?
What about the date that went well with someone who claims to be on the same level as me with one of my biggest needs that no one else has met? He would be the first person I’d go on a second date with because of my standards and needs!
This… will be a side quest for paid subscribers.
A juicy one with a lesson involved. ;)
We’ll call it, part/installment 11.5. Everyone else: tune in next Saturday for the final installment to see what the conclusion of everything is!
When I planned this mini-memoir, it was supposed to cover until April 2024, I’m finishing publishing it at the beginning of September 2024. A LOT has happened since then!
But that’s for another type of post once we’re done here and I end this serialized series.
Thank you SO much for getting this far and following along! Those who actively read along each week, you’re the biggest reason I followed through. I wasn’t gonna let you down!
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Oh boy, a side quest with a lesson involved! I'm in.