How comfortable are we with being happy to let those who are suffering go?
I personally feel that if they’re suffering and nothing else can be done to better the situation, and they’re ready to go? Then it’s best to let them go. No matter how hard it is.
I remember reading a post a couple years ago where it was explaining the difference in elongating a life that no longer wants to live because of its suffering... Versus surrounding that loved one and making them as comfortable as possible as they pass on (no matter how much you don't want to).
But so far, I've never met anyone who thought like the latter. Not really.
My grandpa's best friend may pass this weekend of metastatic cancer, and his girlfriend talked him into trying chemo to keep him here longer. He tried, and hated it, so he stopped and is letting the process finish (understandably so!).
Then watching my mom, and wishing that she would've just chosen to be made comfortable months before she HAD to leave us... I dunno about anyone else, but I'd MUCH rather let someone go than watch them suffer, or for someone on the outside to "keep trying" to fix the inevitable.
(Of course, I know denial can play a part too. Denial is SO scary.)
This is exactly what I feel too. So far after experiencing two deaths I just wanted them to be free of suffering. I personally couldn't fathom keeping them here just cause... I dunno what. There's nothing left for them here if they're just bedridden and suffering.
But I understand that people can really be going through grief horrendously, so I hold space for those feelings of keeping those loved ones around too, of course.
I lost a father quite a few years ago through a debilitating stroke. He had lost alot of function and his health was fair at best. We let him go but the medical process kept intervening. There is certainly room for conversation here.
I'm sorry for your loss! Oh yeah that's definitely interesting to hear about. I was just listening to a podcast about medical intervention with a dying pet. Also just the talk about voluntary active euthanasia and how few states here in the US that allow that.
My old best friend had a grandpa who just wanted to go after some time (he had brain cancer), and I wish he was allowed that because he felt like he lost his dignity the more his body broke down.
Agree.
I feel like it's pretty obvious, right?
I remember reading a post a couple years ago where it was explaining the difference in elongating a life that no longer wants to live because of its suffering... Versus surrounding that loved one and making them as comfortable as possible as they pass on (no matter how much you don't want to).
But so far, I've never met anyone who thought like the latter. Not really.
My grandpa's best friend may pass this weekend of metastatic cancer, and his girlfriend talked him into trying chemo to keep him here longer. He tried, and hated it, so he stopped and is letting the process finish (understandably so!).
Then watching my mom, and wishing that she would've just chosen to be made comfortable months before she HAD to leave us... I dunno about anyone else, but I'd MUCH rather let someone go than watch them suffer, or for someone on the outside to "keep trying" to fix the inevitable.
(Of course, I know denial can play a part too. Denial is SO scary.)
I feel more often than not, the family member is ready to go but the family is not.
This is exactly what I feel too. So far after experiencing two deaths I just wanted them to be free of suffering. I personally couldn't fathom keeping them here just cause... I dunno what. There's nothing left for them here if they're just bedridden and suffering.
But I understand that people can really be going through grief horrendously, so I hold space for those feelings of keeping those loved ones around too, of course.
I lost a father quite a few years ago through a debilitating stroke. He had lost alot of function and his health was fair at best. We let him go but the medical process kept intervening. There is certainly room for conversation here.
I'm sorry for your loss! Oh yeah that's definitely interesting to hear about. I was just listening to a podcast about medical intervention with a dying pet. Also just the talk about voluntary active euthanasia and how few states here in the US that allow that.
My old best friend had a grandpa who just wanted to go after some time (he had brain cancer), and I wish he was allowed that because he felt like he lost his dignity the more his body broke down.
Deeefinitely could be a whole conversation.
umm, yes, yes.